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有時(shí)候被賦予了太多任務(wù)會(huì)使人感覺飄飄然.這意味著人們認(rèn)為你有責(zé)任心、很可靠，并且你總會(huì)圓滿地完成工作。但是當(dāng)他們分配給你太多任務(wù)，你有什么回應(yīng)呢？當(dāng)他們多數(shù)事情都過(guò)于依賴你，你又有什么對(duì)策呢？如果你在以上兩個(gè)問題中皆回答以“好的，同意”，你就要學(xué)學(xué)說(shuō)“不”的藝術(shù)。
Sometimes it feels flattering to be the go-to person for most tasks. This shows that people think you’re responsible, dependable, and you deliver good work. But what do you do when they give you too many tasks for you to handle? What if they depend too much on you for most things? If you answered “yes” to either question, you need to learn the art of saying “No”.
學(xué)會(huì)說(shuō)“不”的好處：
•你擁有了自己空閑的時(shí)間——這對(duì)于超負(fù)荷工作的你來(lái)說(shuō)尤為關(guān)鍵。
•你可以專注于自己覺得真正重要和有興致的項(xiàng)目。
•其他人也會(huì)學(xué)到如何完成一些他們想讓你做的任務(wù)。這將為每人提高效率創(chuàng)造了辦公環(huán)境。
•你減少了別人下次以同樣理由麻煩你的機(jī)會(huì)。
•最最重要的是，你擺出了有選擇權(quán)利的主張，這樣你就不會(huì)被逆來(lái)順受地對(duì)待。
The Benefits of Saying “No”:
--You get to free up your time - especially important if you feel overworked.
--You can focus on the projects that are truly important or exciting to you.
--Other people will have to learn how to accomplish some of the tasks they want you to do. This will result in a more productive office environment for everyone.
--You decrease any chances of people bothering you for the same request later.
--Most importantly, you get to assert your power of choice and people won’t treat you like a doormat.
何時(shí)說(shuō)“不”？
•如果你沒有得到應(yīng)有的報(bào)酬時(shí)。
•如果你情愿自己支配這段時(shí)間時(shí)。
•如果你被分派的任務(wù)正好是你的弱項(xiàng)時(shí)。
•如果你對(duì)項(xiàng)目沒有足夠激情時(shí)。
•如果，你的胃在分配任務(wù)的那一剎那突然痙攣了一下，而這不是因?yàn)槟銓?duì)于著手項(xiàng)目太激動(dòng)所導(dǎo)致時(shí)。
When do you say “no”?
--If you won’t be paid enough for a project.
--If you’d rather do other things with your time.
--If you’re assigned to do something that is your major weakness.
--If the project doesn’t excite you.
--If, when assigned the project, you feel a big knot in your stomach and it’s not because you’re excited to start.
如何說(shuō)“不”?
簡(jiǎn)單來(lái)說(shuō)，你可以僅僅以這個(gè)詞開頭。如果你需要一些補(bǔ)充說(shuō)明，你可以參考下面的任何一種：
•抱歉，不過(guò)現(xiàn)在我分內(nèi)的事情已經(jīng)夠多的了。
•我認(rèn)為我對(duì)那些不是很了解，不過(guò)我可以推薦 Jane ，她對(duì)于這類項(xiàng)目很有經(jīng)驗(yàn)。
•抱歉，我真的不能參加，不過(guò)我過(guò)會(huì)兒可以叫 John 來(lái)代替我。
How do you say “No”?
--Simple, you start with the word itself. If you need supplemental statements, you could use any of the following:
--Sorry, but I’ve got a lot on my plate right now.
--I don’t think I have the right background for that. I recommend Jane because she’s had experience with those types of projects.
--Sorry, I really can’t attend, but I can ask John to fill me in later.
就個(gè)人來(lái)說(shuō)，我也需要修煉這種技術(shù)。我經(jīng)常工作繁重，可惜我并不喜歡所有布置給我的任務(wù)。基本上我歸納了下列為什么我在說(shuō)“不”的時(shí)候不那么順暢的心理原因：
•當(dāng)我的上級(jí)看到我有一絲猶豫或異議的時(shí)候就會(huì)隨心所欲。
•我在分派給我的分內(nèi)工作之外的任務(wù)中都表現(xiàn)出色。雖然這在某些情況中是好事，但沒有人的精神和體力是取之不盡、用之不竭的。
•多數(shù)人把我在處理某些艱難險(xiǎn)阻時(shí)所表現(xiàn)出的“我能行”的態(tài)度當(dāng)成了“我凡事皆行”。
Personally, this is a skill I have to hone. I often get too much work on my plate, and I don’t even enjoy all of the tasks I’m assigned. Basically, I’ve narrowed down the psychological reasons why I have a problem saying no:
--People in a higher position pull rank when they see signs of hesitation or disagreement.
--I’ve shown skill in such a variety of tasks that I’m asked to do things that go even beyond my job description. Although this is good in some cases, no one has an unlimited source of mental and physical energy.
--Most people assume that my “I can do it!” attitude towards many hard obstacles means “I can and will do everything!”
通過(guò)不時(shí)地說(shuō)“不”，你教育了別人要尊重你的時(shí)間和精力。如果他們習(xí)慣了你說(shuō)“好的”，那么現(xiàn)在就是你扭轉(zhuǎn)時(shí)機(jī)的絕佳時(shí)機(jī)。最壞又會(huì)怎么樣呢？別人將會(huì)學(xué)會(huì)做他們自己的事情、調(diào)整他們的資源。這并不是一個(gè)最壞的結(jié)局吧。
By saying “no” once in a while, you are training people to respect your time and energy. If they’ve gotten used to you saying “yes”, then now is the perfect time to reverse the cycle. What’s the worst that could happen? People will learn to do some things themselves or adjust their resources. Not bad for a worst case scenario.
面對(duì)你覺得無(wú)意的任務(wù)，你準(zhǔn)備好了說(shuō)“不”嗎？
Are you good at saying “no” to tasks that seem to have no value for you?
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